What is a family?
“A family is where minds come in contact with one another. If these minds love one another, the home will be as beautiful as a flower garden, but if these minds get out of harmony with one another, it is like a storm that plays havoc with the garden.” The Buddha
This has to be the simplest definition of how to have a happy family. Love one another. No fancy way of dividing the housework, or disciplining the children. No rules about friends or what job you should have, just be in harmony through love. No formula about gathering assets or how to live. Just acceptance of each other as you all are.
So try the advice the Buddha gives, and just love your family today, with no preconceptions. Tomorrow repeat, until you have done this exercise for a month. Keep a diary over this month, record any negative thoughts you have about those you love. After a month, take a look at the trend towards negative thoughts. Is the trend increasing, staying about the same or decreasing? DO you find your connection to your family stronger than when you started? As usual these answers are for yourself, no sharing required.