The Origin of Suffering
Firstly suffering is rooted in our ignorance of ourselves and of reality. Suffering can come from craving sensory pleasures or delights. The stomach rumbling, after the nose smelled fresh bread, and our eyes saw it coming out of the bakers oven, is a craving that we get when we our senses are selling us on what we want. We also desire new experiences, new delights, this can be a major cause of suffering in relationships. Rather then realize that our relationships needs effort, just as we would weed a garden to produce a good crop, so must we remove those obstacles or thoughts that lead us to look for a new relationship, not realizing that the search will never end. We feel the need to be the top of the power pyramid, at work and at home. It is why the Buddha set out realistic and achievable rules to share power in a marriage. Finally suffering can be a wish for it to all be ended, that we have lost what made life worth living. Talk to elders you know, and in many cases they will give you examples of a husband or wife loosing the will to live after their partner has passed away. So suffering may be said to be caused by ignorance, attachment and aversion.